Loneliness – The Downsides of Solo Travel

When my cousin left me after three weeks of travelling together, I could quickly feel the negative sites of travelling solo.

I was really in love with it beforehand for two months, enjoyed my freedom and the advantages of hostel life and meeting people easily when you have no other chance of socialisation.

But after I fell in the laziness and easiness of living in Airbnbs and spending every day with my cousin, it was harder to get back to it than I thought.

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There also were a few problems I had to face that didn’t make it easier for me to get back to it: First of all, my flight from Sydney to Perth got cancelled and the stress and tiredness affected my mood. I also had a lot of blog work that I wanted to catch up on after enjoying most of my time with my cousin, which made me feel like I want to be alone to work. On the other hand, I missed the socialisation and talking to others, but my hostel in Perth was also home to some alcoholics (yes, they really were, starting to drink in the morning and already being drunk after lunch) who didn’t make me feel comfortable to stay in the common area for long. In that period of time, I also met two nice boys/men that I started spending some time with, but who started liking me more and saying/doing things that annoyed me and made me wanna rather spend time on my own. Knowing that my family would arrive in only 3 weeks made the time even harder, as I knew it was so close but still not there yet.

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Of course, there were also silver linings. Knowing that my family would arrive in Australia soon and that it wasn’t many days to get through until I could finally spend some time with them. Long phone calls with my parents and friends, that almost made me feel like sitting on the sofa next to them talking. A lovely German couple I met and spend two days with baking brownies and playing lots of cards. Using the time to treat myself – sleeping in, working out in the morning, having a big healthy brunch. Watching Youtube videos in bed without feeling guilty for the time I could have done something productive.

Experiencing the feeling of loneliness and being homesick is part of travelling solo and I think that every traveller faces these kinds of days in some stage and at some point of their travels.

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For me, this week in Perth was the first time on my Australia journey of negative emotions for several days. Before I was feeling very comfortable in my situation, knowing what to do to keep me feeling great, but after my cousin left I kind of fell into a hole that I couldn’t get myself out of completely.

Luckily, I never felt a really strong depressive mood or anything, as I always tried to keep myself busy, around some nice people and thinking positive, but I also didn’t get back into feeling like myself.

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Because of that, I decided that it would be time to change something and as I had really amazing experiences so far with taking part of guided tours for several days (like I did on the Great Ocean Road or in the Outback), I booked another 6-day-tour to see the beautiful South-West of Australia.

I knew that having an adventurous and busy schedule with many great places to see and awesome things to do, as well as a group of people around me,  would make me feel good and just like I hoped so, it was a great decision. The six days flew by very fast and even though I returned to the same hostel and the same dorm room afterwards, everything felt different.

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I had a much better experience being in Perth afterwards, even though I didn’t have touristy things to keep me busy and have things to do, but instead I had met some nice people on the tour that I also spend time with afterwards back in Perth and I also met new faces in my hostel that I could hang out with. Once again, I used the time to work on my blog, work out and take time for myself and this time I could luckily enjoy it much more.

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Things that Help Me when I feel Unhappy, Lonely or Homesick while Solo Travelling

  • Surrounding myself with people. Going in the common area/kitchen, find people to talk to or just listen to their conversations. Working on my laptop in the common area instead of the dorm, going into bookshops and reading/browsing through their books, going in the park to listen to music/podcasts.
  • Watching your favourite Youtubers that make you feel cosy, inspired and just overall good
  • Focussing on yourself. Taking time for body and mind care, working out
  • Call or text with people that you miss. It might make you miss them more, but sometimes all we need is crying a bit and feeling better afterwards
  • Thinking about all the positive things. That I am currently living the life of my dreams and doing every day whatever I desire
  • Keeping myself busy with touristy stuff, blog work, food shopping and cooking, working out… find something that you like to spend your time with
  • Reading, listening to podcasts and audiobooks or music
  • Book a tour for a few days. In my eyes they are worth the money and you meet great people and have great experiences. It is also great for couples/travel mates that are together 24/7 to be on a tour with more people to hang out

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My Favourite Photography Accounts on Instagram

Some people are just real superheroes when it comes to capturing the perfect moments. I love following inspiring people on Instagram and be blown away by the beauty of their shots. I already shared a few of my absolute favourites in the categories travel, veganism and fashion with you.

This time the accounts can’t really be put into one category but instead, they are masterpieces in storytelling and expressing feelings, emotions and vibes through their photography. In my opinion, these accounts create art!

@espenvalverde

Landscape photography can be boring. But not when you know how to capture it right. When there is a story behind it, a feeling and emotions that are soaked in that one shot.

@chelseakauai

What she is able to experience is out of this world. And she knows how to show these moments and bring the feelings behind it across to her viewers – pure magic.

@_foodstories_

It is so beautiful to see what art these two ladies create with their locations, tables, plates and food. You could say this is food photography, landscape, detail and home or interior photography in one. Such a huge inspiration.

@alliemtaylor

This traveller just knows how to show the depth of landscapes. Usually, I would say you can’t capture these huge mountains and breathtaking landscapes in one shot, but she knows how to.

@vanellimelli

The vibe Melli spreads is just adorable. Cute, smiling and straight from the 90th.

@linesauberlich

These soft tones are just made to dream of. I love how her pictures are calm and adventurous at the same time.

@vagabondhearts

Another adventurous soul that captures the best views and hiking-rest-places in her shots. Makes me want to go on adventures in the mountains straight away.

@lene_merle

I just recently discovered her because of her wonderful pictures of her trip through the south of Australia. I love that her couple pictures are something different, not to cheesy, kinda real, kinda what you dream about. Just beautiful.


What are your favourite photographers on Instagram? What pictures make you start to dream? Do you like the ones I choose to show you?

 

Off to Australia! 24 Hour Journey and my First Day in Melbourne | Diary 001

It’s already over one week ago since I said goodbye to my parents and flew to the other side of the world. I still haven’t realised completely that I am in Australia on my big adventure now. On the other hand, I kind of already feels settled here.

I have some friends and people to hang out with, I know where to go and what tram to take, I already saw a lot of places and I got used to speaking English very quickly.

Maybe it’s just because of the cold weather that it doesn’t really feel like Australia for me. Or maybe because I haven’t seen any typical Australian nature yet – cause the city of Melbourne could be a European city as well…

Now that I have a lot of amazing experiences and exciting things to do and talk about every day, I thought I would start writing a diary here on my blog to update you on what I am doing, seeing, eating and feeling.

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A few days before…

There was a time (around 2 weeks before my flight) where I felt a bit insecure. I had very mixed emotions with leaving all my friends and my family back home and being alone on the other side of the world. I got a bit scared about my safety and if I would find people to hang out with, if I’ll be able to find the way in a huge city like Melbourne or if I will get lonely and homesick. Of course, I was still excited about my adventure, but scared at the same time…

Luckily a friend of mine has been in the same situation two years ago and he could give me some good tips and ease my fears and doubts.

 

 

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A few days before my flight I wasn’t scared at all anymore. I kind of felt like in trance – I just could not realize that the time I have been waiting for for so long is actually there and that I’ll be flying soon. I packed my backpack but wasn’t really in vacation mood as I usually am when packing my bag for a trip. It was more like seeing someone else doing it – I didn’t really felt like I was present.

If you want to know what I packed and took with me for one year of travelling through Australia and Asia, have a look at this blog post!

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Wednesday 19/9

Backpacks where ready, I already said goodbye to all my friends and family (more about my last weekend with my best friends in my September Review) and drove with my parents to Frankfurt. We had a beautiful last dinner together and I had a last good sleep on German ground.

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Thursday 20/9

Early in the morning, we drove to the airport, I checked in my backpack, ate avo bagel for breakfast and had to say goodbye to my parents. This was for sure the hardest goodbye of all.

At 11 am my flight took off and I left my home. Luckily, I wasn’t sad at all – just excited for what is about to come. I flew with Qatar airlines which is a super good airline that I booked an open-return ticket with (which I highly recommend for long trips like mine because you never exactly know when you want to return).

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For my first flight to Doha I had a whole row to myself which was super nice and also the vegan food that I asked for before via email was the best plane food I’ve ever had!

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After 6 hours I landed in Doha and when we left the plane it was like a hot hairdryer that blows into your face, even though it was the late evening, it was still super hot. In my three hour layover, I just walked around the airport a bit and used their Wi-Fi to tell everybody at home that I landed in Qatar safe.

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Then I had to get on my 1- hour flight to Melbourne which wasn’t as comfortable, but I could still sleep pretty well and I watched some movies. The food again was amazing and I have to say that I really enjoyed my flights – nevertheless, they were long.

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Friday 21/9

On Thursday me and my backpack (thank god!) arrived in Melbourne at around 6pm. To get to the centre I had to take the Skybus from the airport which was 19$!! Only for a 20-minute bus ride. But I arrived at my hostel and quickly met my roommate Sabrina from Italy, that I still spend a lot of time with.

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Saturday 22/9

My first day in Melbourne was kind of overwhelming and I quickly felt like I didn’t like the city that much because it is busy, loud and lots of people. But I fell in love with the city more and more every day!

First thing I did was going to the bank to open up a bank account at get my card delivered to my hostel as quickly as possible and afterwards I just scrolled through the streets to get an idea of the city.

I felt like my jetlag wasn’t very bad because I wasn’t tired at all in the day, but the first 3 or 4 nights I woke up in the middle of the night and couldn’t fall back asleep for hours which was annoying but it’s all good now.

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The weather here in Melbourne is not as I wished it would be. I freeze even though I wear all the clothes that I have with my (longsleeve, sweater, down jacket, softshell jacket and a scarf). The wind is pretty strong and especially in the shades it can be freezing. We have around 16-18° Celsius most days and in the sun it can get warm, but I am probably just not used to the “cold” after this hot summer in Europe.

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