Loneliness – The Downsides of Solo Travel

When my cousin left me after three weeks of travelling together, I could quickly feel the negative sites of travelling solo.

I was really in love with it beforehand for two months, enjoyed my freedom and the advantages of hostel life and meeting people easily when you have no other chance of socialisation.

But after I fell in the laziness and easiness of living in Airbnbs and spending every day with my cousin, it was harder to get back to it than I thought.

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There also were a few problems I had to face that didn’t make it easier for me to get back to it: First of all, my flight from Sydney to Perth got cancelled and the stress and tiredness affected my mood. I also had a lot of blog work that I wanted to catch up on after enjoying most of my time with my cousin, which made me feel like I want to be alone to work. On the other hand, I missed the socialisation and talking to others, but my hostel in Perth was also home to some alcoholics (yes, they really were, starting to drink in the morning and already being drunk after lunch) who didn’t make me feel comfortable to stay in the common area for long. In that period of time, I also met two nice boys/men that I started spending some time with, but who started liking me more and saying/doing things that annoyed me and made me wanna rather spend time on my own. Knowing that my family would arrive in only 3 weeks made the time even harder, as I knew it was so close but still not there yet.

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Of course, there were also silver linings. Knowing that my family would arrive in Australia soon and that it wasn’t many days to get through until I could finally spend some time with them. Long phone calls with my parents and friends, that almost made me feel like sitting on the sofa next to them talking. A lovely German couple I met and spend two days with baking brownies and playing lots of cards. Using the time to treat myself – sleeping in, working out in the morning, having a big healthy brunch. Watching Youtube videos in bed without feeling guilty for the time I could have done something productive.

Experiencing the feeling of loneliness and being homesick is part of travelling solo and I think that every traveller faces these kinds of days in some stage and at some point of their travels.

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For me, this week in Perth was the first time on my Australia journey of negative emotions for several days. Before I was feeling very comfortable in my situation, knowing what to do to keep me feeling great, but after my cousin left I kind of fell into a hole that I couldn’t get myself out of completely.

Luckily, I never felt a really strong depressive mood or anything, as I always tried to keep myself busy, around some nice people and thinking positive, but I also didn’t get back into feeling like myself.

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Because of that, I decided that it would be time to change something and as I had really amazing experiences so far with taking part of guided tours for several days (like I did on the Great Ocean Road or in the Outback), I booked another 6-day-tour to see the beautiful South-West of Australia.

I knew that having an adventurous and busy schedule with many great places to see and awesome things to do, as well as a group of people around me,  would make me feel good and just like I hoped so, it was a great decision. The six days flew by very fast and even though I returned to the same hostel and the same dorm room afterwards, everything felt different.

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I had a much better experience being in Perth afterwards, even though I didn’t have touristy things to keep me busy and have things to do, but instead I had met some nice people on the tour that I also spend time with afterwards back in Perth and I also met new faces in my hostel that I could hang out with. Once again, I used the time to work on my blog, work out and take time for myself and this time I could luckily enjoy it much more.

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Things that Help Me when I feel Unhappy, Lonely or Homesick while Solo Travelling

  • Surrounding myself with people. Going in the common area/kitchen, find people to talk to or just listen to their conversations. Working on my laptop in the common area instead of the dorm, going into bookshops and reading/browsing through their books, going in the park to listen to music/podcasts.
  • Watching your favourite Youtubers that make you feel cosy, inspired and just overall good
  • Focussing on yourself. Taking time for body and mind care, working out
  • Call or text with people that you miss. It might make you miss them more, but sometimes all we need is crying a bit and feeling better afterwards
  • Thinking about all the positive things. That I am currently living the life of my dreams and doing every day whatever I desire
  • Keeping myself busy with touristy stuff, blog work, food shopping and cooking, working out… find something that you like to spend your time with
  • Reading, listening to podcasts and audiobooks or music
  • Book a tour for a few days. In my eyes they are worth the money and you meet great people and have great experiences. It is also great for couples/travel mates that are together 24/7 to be on a tour with more people to hang out

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We Drown in Plastic

Every single piece of plastic made, still exists.

It takes about 450 years for synthetic material to decompose and since 1950 we’ve already produced 3,8 million tons of it. If we continue or even increase the use and waste of plastic it won’t take long until we drown in plastic.

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There are plastic islands as big as France and Germany together in every ocean on our earth.

Sea animals die of starvation with their stomach full of plastic they mistake as food.

Beaches at the most beautiful places in the world are overfloated with garbage that gets thrown into the sea by ships or into rivers that flow into the oceans.

You wonder what it has to do with you?

You put all your garbage in trash bins and it gets recycled – that’s only one part of the truth.
We produce so much waste in the industrial countries that we export it to other countries to get rid of it. 2015 Germany exported 600.000 tons of synthetic waste to China. Now that our waste is not in our country anymore we can’t control what is done with it.
55% of our waste gets burned. A great way to get rid of it quickly, without needing huge landfills or risking that it lands in the ocean – But on the side, toxic chemicals emit and pollute our air.

I know that the garbage from developing countries mostly ends up in our oceans, but I am sure that even small changes and being attentive to our own consumption can help.

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It’s not just them

70.000 m³ waste from ships and fishing boats end up in the North Sea every year.

Synthetic clothes lose 2.000 pieces of fibre per wash and 500 tons of microplastic from peelings and other beauty products ends up in our sewage.

Wastelands in nature – not just in developing countries but in our neighbourhood and at our beaches. Takeaway food packaging, cigarette ends, candy wrapper, chewing gums, drinking bottles and more.

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What can we do?

Be aware of your consumption.

If you use less, you can waste less. Especially try to avoid single-use plastic. 78 million tons of plastic packaging is produced every year – one-third ends up in our nature. I know it’s super hard to reduce something that seems to be EVERYWHERE and I am not super good at it myself and I really want to work on it more and more, but there are small things that are not hard to change and that have an impact as well. Start small and get better!
I already made a blog post about 5 eco-friendly swaps everyone should use. Things that really aren’t that hard to incorporate in your day to day life. I’ll soon make another post about reducing plastic in our bathroom and using sustainable, zero-waste products – stay tuned!

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Talk to others about this problem.

When more and more people start to make small changes they add up to great results. For example, share this blog post or my 5 eco-friendly must-haves so that more people can learn and improve!

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Take your garbage with you.

I’m pretty sure that you, my readers, are intelligent enough to not throw takeaway food containers out of your car window on the roadside. And we can’t convince others if they are not willing to understand, but we can be a good example. And yes that sometimes means cleaning the disgusting garbage of others…but you can feel great about it afterwards!

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Stop using chemical beauty products.

Products that contain synthetical peeling pieces, glitter and such. It’s not just very unhealthy for your body (because our skin absorbs them as well), but it’s also so small that it easily ends up in our groundwater and until now it’s not sure what consequences it has for our nature and organism. But it has already been linked to bad fertility.

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Stop supporting wild fishing.

Until recently my family thought wild fish is healthier than farmed fish. On one hand that’s true because it has less fat and ate more natural than farmed and fed fish. But on the other hand, wild fish lives in our oceans, seas and lakes that are polluted with microplastic and waste. Our oceans contain 6 times more plastic than plankton and the marine life easily mistake it. And so do we mistake these animals as our food and the plastic ends up in our body as well.
But you should not only refuse fishing for health reasons. It is a major reason for garbage, chemicals and oils in our oceans and sea animals, as well as reefs, get killed/destroyed by lost fishing nets.

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These pictures are made by Katja from amoureuxee and I am very proud that we could transfer this topic into these wonderful and aesthetic pictures!

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This subject is very important to me and I want to better myself and take you guys along with me on my journey to more sustainability here on my blog. I hope you are interested in more information, DIYs and tips!

 

Plastic is a huge topic and everybody that loves nature, animals, is aware of their own health or the health of mother earth needs to occupy oneself with it. So start yourself now, every little change is an improvement and together it will be huge.

We need to change, otherwise, we’ll drown in plastic.

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Source for the numbers and facts: here.

A n t i c i p a t i o n

–  The excited feeling for something upcoming in the future.  –

That tingly feeling you have in your stomach. Mixed with a slightly little fear of not knowing what will come.

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But I try to stay confident. That’s what I’ve always wanted, dreamt of every night, in every daydream. Since four years, I’m looking forward to this time if my life. All I ever wanted was to be free and exploring and that’s still what I want.

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Nevertheless, it’s my first time traveling alone.
My first time being away from my family for more than two weeks.
My first time being on the other side of the world in Australia.
My first time flying alone.
My first time traveling with a backpack.
My first time being on the go for longer than three weeks.
My first time traveling alone in Australia far away from my family and friends with a backpack for a long period of time.

So many first times and my anticipation is huge.

I know that there are many wonderful, beautiful, adventurous, calm, exciting, happy times ahead of me, as well as hard, scary, lonely situations. That’s what traveling is all about and I am ready for them all. Or at least ready to learn, grow and master situations that I haven’t had to conquer before. I know that I can.

There are a few things that I need to get done before. A few things to buy, to safe, to organize, to apply and to inform myself about.

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Today I had to say goodbye to one of my grandparents already because they are going on vacation for four weeks and we are not going to see each other again before I leave. It was such a weird feeling. I still cannot imagine being away and not seeing them for so long.

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On one hand, I cannot wait to finally start my adventure. On the other hand, time flies by so fast and I try to enjoy every left moment at home with my family, friends and my cat.

Exciting times are ahead of me. And I can’t wait!