There are always times in life that are easier and times where it’s harder to be happy. Situations life throws you into, where it’s hard to stay positive and phases in life, that feel like nothing could ever be better.
Some things can’t be changed. Problems, you have to deal with or circumstances you can’t get out of. But it’s still – and always – our mindset, that we have the power over. And that is what we need to use, to make everything better, easier and doable.
This blogpost is not really meant for big problems and how to solve them, but more on how to make life & your mind, in general, more happy and joyful.
1. Focus on the Good
This is probably the most powerful lesson, yet it can be hard in some situations to stick to it. But don’t judge yourself, when you realise you got pulled away by negativity, judgement, gossiping or complaining – it happens to everyone. Recognise it and then let it go. You will eventually get more consistent and it gets easier to stick to it.
Obviously, it’s not possible, to only see positivity and good things – that’s not the point. The key is to not waste your time, thoughts and energy on it. Recognise, maybe take five minutes to cry or scream it out (sometimes it helps to just let all the emotions out and to not keep them within you), or if it’s not as bad just breath it away. And then take it as it is, forget about it, ignore it or change it, if you can and want to. Whatever the right decision may be, don’t stick to it with negative energy and thoughts.
„Accept it, Change it, or Leave it.“
There is no other option if you don’t want it to influence you in a negative way. And yes it can be hard, but you just have to try harder and refocus yourself. The more you practice it and the more situations you handle positively through this practice, the easier it gets and you will feel how much better it makes every „negative“ or „hard“ situation seem.
I, for example, stopped reading the daily news. It may seem weird to some and as if I don’t want to know what is going on in the world, but I personally just don’t want to read horror titles and negative news every day.
2. Take time for your thoughts
When I go for a walk, I don’t take my phone with me to listen to music. I just walk and think. To some people that might sound crazy boring and horrible. But I think it is really important to take time to think all by yourself and without distraction from feelings, emotions, worries and such.
I feel so clear, refreshed and more enthusiastic and motivated after I’ve done that. I rethink about the last days, plan and organise the upcoming ones, schedule my to-do’s and make a game plan.
That is so important for me to stay focused, feel less stressed and to have got things straightened out with my own thoughts and emotions.
3. Having a Passion & Goals in Life
Working on my goals, having a meaning and purpose to get up in the morning gives me so much motivation, excitement and therefore happiness.
And this does not mean that you need to have the purpose to revolutionize the world. It can be small things, it can be anything you enjoy and is important to you. Find a passion, hobbies, things to do that you like.
Mine is health. I love cooking, food, healthy eating, learning about nutrition and a healthy lifestyle, fitness & yoga. Another one is sustainability. I love to learn more and improve myself, making small changes every day. Travelling and sunshine makes my heart sparkle. And I love to surround myself with people that share similar values, interests or just a great time.
4. Little Things
When I was around 13 years old, I listened to an audiobook by John Strelecky that thought me that the small things in life are the most important, because they add up and become the biggest.
And I genuinely started to look for the small, beautiful things and took a moment to appreciate them.
„Look around, happiness is trying to catch you.“
I listened to the birds chirping in the morning, closed my eyes, enjoyed it and purposely smiled. Every time the sun is out in the wintertime, I try to catch as many sunbeams, thanking the sun that it came out to make me happy and smile.
Food is another thing, that can become very boring and a routine. But I personally, can find so much joy and happiness through food. I love good, healthy, vegan, yummy food and I take the time to buy, cook, prepare and eat it every day – it’s the little things, but you can make them count a lot!
5. Stop comparing & Be Grateful
It’s always easy to look at the others: their success, life, relationship, look. Everything might look „perfect“. But remember, you only see a little part of their life, whether on Instagram or even in real life. You don’t know about all their struggles, the hard work that is behind it or the problems it comes with.
Instead of looking at all the great things others have, appreciate the great things that are in your life and be grateful for them. There is so much to be grateful for and remember tip 4 and all the little things as well!
6. You will always find what you are looking for
When you look for negativity, problems, failure, mistakes, unfriendly people and such, you will focus on it, and you will find it.
But if you focus your thoughts and your attention on the good, success, friendly people, chances and fun times, there will be more of all that in your life.
7. Be the energy you want to attract
This is part of the law of attraction, which I want to talk about in a separate post, otherwise, this will get too long, but I quickly wanted to mention it anyway.
Your mind is the most powerful tool you have. So if you want to be happy, start changing your mindset and your thoughts. If you spread happiness, joy, positivity and abundance, you will receive more of this energy into your life.
I really hope you find this blogpost helpful and interesting! I really want to talk more about positivity, mindset, law of attraction etc. on my blog because I think it is so important and it is a big & important part of my life and I want to focus on it even more myself.
I would love to hear in the comments, if you have any other tips, what is extra important to you and what mindfulness-topics and posts you would like to see!