How to Be Happy – 7 Ways to Find Joy & Happiness Every Day

There are always times in life that are easier and times where it’s harder to be happy. Situations life throws you into, where it’s hard to stay positive and phases in life, that feel like nothing could ever be better.

Some things can’t be changed. Problems, you have to deal with or circumstances you can’t get out of. But it’s still – and always – our mindset, that we have the power over. And that is what we need to use, to make everything better, easier and doable.

This blogpost is not really meant for big problems and how to solve them, but more on how to make life & your mind, in general, more happy and joyful.

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1. Focus on the Good

This is probably the most powerful lesson, yet it can be hard in some situations to stick to it. But don’t judge yourself, when you realise you got pulled away by negativity, judgement, gossiping or complaining – it happens to everyone. Recognise it and then let it go. You will eventually get more consistent and it gets easier to stick to it.

Obviously, it’s not possible, to only see positivity and good things – that’s not the point. The key is to not waste your time, thoughts and energy on it. Recognise, maybe take five minutes to cry or scream it out (sometimes it helps to just let all the emotions out and to not keep them within you), or if it’s not as bad just breath it away. And then take it as it is, forget about it, ignore it or change it, if you can and want to. Whatever the right decision may be, don’t stick to it with negative energy and thoughts.

 

„Accept it, Change it, or Leave it.“

There is no other option if you don’t want it to influence you in a negative way. And yes it can be hard, but you just have to try harder and refocus yourself. The more you practice it and the more situations you handle positively through this practice, the easier it gets and you will feel how much better it makes every „negative“ or „hard“ situation seem.

I, for example, stopped reading the daily news. It may seem weird to some and as if I don’t want to know what is going on in the world, but I personally just don’t want to read horror titles and negative news every day.

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2. Take time for your thoughts

When I go for a walk, I don’t take my phone with me to listen to music. I just walk and think. To some people that might sound crazy boring and horrible. But I think it is really important to take time to think all by yourself and without distraction from feelings, emotions, worries and such.

I feel so clear, refreshed and more enthusiastic and motivated after I’ve done that. I rethink about the last days, plan and organise the upcoming ones, schedule my to-do’s and make a game plan.

That is so important for me to stay focused, feel less stressed and to have got things straightened out with my own thoughts and emotions.

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3. Having a Passion & Goals in Life

Working on my goals, having a meaning and purpose to get up in the morning gives me so much motivation, excitement and therefore happiness.

And this does not mean that you need to have the purpose to revolutionize the world. It can be small things, it can be anything you enjoy and is important to you. Find a passion, hobbies, things to do that you like.

Mine is health. I love cooking, food, healthy eating, learning about nutrition and a healthy lifestyle, fitness & yoga. Another one is sustainability. I love to learn more and improve myself, making small changes every day. Travelling and sunshine makes my heart sparkle. And I love to surround myself with people that share similar values, interests or just a great time.

 

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4. Little Things

When I was around 13 years old, I listened to an audiobook by John Strelecky that thought me that the small things in life are the most important, because they add up and become the biggest.

And I genuinely started to look for the small, beautiful things and took a moment to appreciate them.

„Look around, happiness is trying to catch you.“

I listened to the birds chirping in the morning, closed my eyes, enjoyed it and purposely smiled. Every time the sun is out in the wintertime, I try to catch as many sunbeams, thanking the sun that it came out to make me happy and smile.

Food is another thing, that can become very boring and a routine. But I personally, can find so much joy and happiness through food. I love good, healthy, vegan, yummy food and I take the time to buy, cook, prepare and eat it every day – it’s the little things, but you can make them count a lot!

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5. Stop comparing & Be Grateful

It’s always easy to look at the others: their success, life, relationship, look. Everything might look „perfect“. But remember, you only see a little part of their life, whether on Instagram or even in real life. You don’t know about all their struggles, the hard work that is behind it or the problems it comes with.

Instead of looking at all the great things others have, appreciate the great things that are in your life and be grateful for them. There is so much to be grateful for and remember tip 4 and all the little things as well!

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6. You will always find what you are looking for

When you look for negativity, problems, failure, mistakes, unfriendly people and such, you will focus on it, and you will find it.

But if you focus your thoughts and your attention on the good, success, friendly people, chances and fun times, there will be more of all that in your life.

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7. Be the energy you want to attract

This is part of the law of attraction, which I want to talk about in a separate post, otherwise, this will get too long, but I quickly wanted to mention it anyway.

Your mind is the most powerful tool you have. So if you want to be happy, start changing your mindset and your thoughts. If you spread happiness, joy, positivity and abundance, you will receive more of this energy into your life.

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I really hope you find this blogpost helpful and interesting! I really want to talk more about positivity, mindset, law of attraction etc. on my blog because I think it is so important and it is a big & important part of my life and I want to focus on it even more myself.

I would love to hear in the comments, if you have any other tips, what is extra important to you and what mindfulness-topics and posts you would like to see!

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Back in the Blogging Game – Selbstzweifel in der Online-Welt | Gedankenchaos

It’s been a long while seit es hier auf dem Blog etwas von mir zu lesen gab und das hat nicht nur etwas damit zu tun, dass ich die letzten Monate meiner Reise voll und ganz genießen wollte, sondern auch viel mit Selbstzweifeln, Unsicherheiten und nicht-genau-wissen-was-ich-hier-machen-will.

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Ich glaube das kennt jeder mit einem Blog, YouTube Kanal oder nicht ausschließlich privatem Instagram Account. Man kommt manchmal in Phasen in denen man alles in Frage stellt, egal wie viele Follower, Leser oder Zuschauer. Warum man sich diesen Stress antut, die ganze Arbeit, die Selbstkritik, komische Kommentare oder Kritik und einfach dieses „Extra“ worauf viele andere Menschen in ihrem Leben auch gut verzichten können.

Seit über drei Monaten habe ich das alles hier für unbestimmte Zeit einfach mal sein lassen. Einfach nur mein offline Leben gelebt, genossen, ausgekostet, um zu schauen, ob ich etwas vermisse und ob ich wieder Lust darauf habe weiter zu machen.

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Anfangs war ich noch fest davon überzeugt bald wieder zu schreiben und zu posten, aber es zog sich immer weiter und weiter hin. Bis ich feststellte, dass ich es nicht mehr so wichtig finden möchte ob ein gutes Bild bei einer schönen Location entstanden ist und mich auch nicht mehr zwang irgendwelche Ideen umzusetzen oder Momente einzufangen nur weil ich wusste ich würde mich später, beim schreiben eines Posts, ärgern, dass es dazu keine Momentaufnahme gab.

Fotografieren tat ich deshalb trotzdem gerne, aber ohne bestimmten Hintergedanken. Einfach um später zurückscrollen zu können und in Erinnerungen zu schwelgen.

Ideen schwirrten trotzdem in meinem Kopf und Notizen machte ich ebenfalls. Aber ich schrieb nie komplette Texte oder arbeitete irgendwas an meinem Laptop. Ich wollte erstmal wieder Inspiration sammeln und wieder richtig Lust auf Schreiben bekommen. Und genau dieser Wunsch wurde durch meine ganzen Unsicherheiten und Zweifel immer wieder aufgeschoben.

Ich wollte es mal wieder perfekt machen, gleich wieder richtig motiviert durchstarten, regelmäßig dabei bleiben und irgendwie auch etwas an meiner Themenwelt ändern, da sich auch meine Interessen etwas verschoben hatten. Aber ich wusste nicht wie genau ich mir das vorstelle und bevor ich mir nicht sicher war, wollte ich gar nicht anfangen. Ich habe lieber erstmal weitergegrübelt, Pro- und Con-Listen in meinem Kopf erstellt und mir den Kopf zerbrochen anstatt einfach zu machen.

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Eine weitere Sache habe ich dann auch noch über mich lernen können: ich bin ein mitteilungsbedürftiger Mensch. Nicht in der Hinsicht viel Aufmerksamkeit in einer Gruppe zu brauchen, sondern ich rede einfach gerne, tausche mich mit Leuten aus und mag es vor allem über Themen zu diskutieren die mich interessieren. Meinen Horizont erweitern und lernen. Und das war auch der Grund weshalb ich meinen Blog gestartet habe. Als Austausch und Anregung mich mit Themen zu beschäftigen. Meine Gedanken loszuwerden und mit Menschen darüber zu sprechen.

Und das ist es was mir auch die letzten Wochen und Monate am meisten gefehlt hat: Gedanken und Ideen umsetzen und dabei kreativ sein und mich weiter entwickeln.

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Komischerweise war ich gerade dann letzte Woche zum Entschluss gekommen es erstmal zu lassen. Einfach, weil ich mir so unsicher war und ich mich mit dieser Unsicherheit und den Selbstzweifeln nicht selbst dazu überreden wollte wieder anzufangen. Wenn ich es mache, dann richtig und mit Herz, Liebe, Mühe und Freude dabei. Aber dieser Entschluss hat mich dann irgendwie doch nicht zu der erhofften Erleichterung und inneren Ruhe gebracht, wie ich es dachte.

Gestern erklärte ich dann jemandem meine Situation und meine Unsicherheit und den Grund weswegen ich gerade so unsicher war. Das wirkliche Problem sind nämlich meine eigenen Gedanken und Erwartungen. Das ich es gedanklich einfach zu Ernst sehe und mir dadurch selbst zu viel Druck aufbaue. Perfektionistisch.

Und er sagte dann: „Aber das ist ja eigentlich auch ganz gut“ und diese Sichtweise scheine ich gebraucht zu haben. Die Erinnerung, dass es doch gut ist sich selbst eine Aufgabe zu geben, eine Arbeit, seine Zeit sinnvoll zu nutzen. Auch einer der größten Gründe weswegen ich diesen Blog begonnen habe. Weil ich es liebe etwas Sinnvolles zu machen, produktiv zu sein.

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Das schien mir gefehlt zu haben: Ich hatte vergessen warum dieser Druck, die Arbeit und Mühe, der vermeintliche „Stress“ doch auch positiv ist und ich das mag. Vor allem wenn ich ihn sogar selbst in der Hand habe. Ich muss nicht diese Selbstzweifel haben nicht gut genug zu sein, nicht „perfekt“, nicht genug. Das hängt alles ganz allein von mir ab.

Und scheinbar habe ich diese offline Zeit gebraucht um mir über einige dieser Sachen klar zu werden. Das es nicht immer MUSS. Ich MUSS keinen Stress haben, MUSS mir selbst keinen Druck machen und MUSS einfach auch meine eigenen, manchmal zu hoch gestellten Anforderungen nicht erfüllen.

Ich DARF machen was ich will, worauf ich Lust habe und was mir eben Spaß macht, wo wann und wie ich möchte. 

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Schreibt mir doch gerne mal, was euch dazu im Kopf rumschwirrt. Lasst uns uns Austauschen, uns gegenseitig helfen, Tipps geben oder auch einfach nur unsere Gedanken loswerden!

Loneliness – The Downsides of Solo Travel

When my cousin left me after three weeks of travelling together, I could quickly feel the negative sites of travelling solo.

I was really in love with it beforehand for two months, enjoyed my freedom and the advantages of hostel life and meeting people easily when you have no other chance of socialisation.

But after I fell in the laziness and easiness of living in Airbnbs and spending every day with my cousin, it was harder to get back to it than I thought.

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There also were a few problems I had to face that didn’t make it easier for me to get back to it: First of all, my flight from Sydney to Perth got cancelled and the stress and tiredness affected my mood. I also had a lot of blog work that I wanted to catch up on after enjoying most of my time with my cousin, which made me feel like I want to be alone to work. On the other hand, I missed the socialisation and talking to others, but my hostel in Perth was also home to some alcoholics (yes, they really were, starting to drink in the morning and already being drunk after lunch) who didn’t make me feel comfortable to stay in the common area for long. In that period of time, I also met two nice boys/men that I started spending some time with, but who started liking me more and saying/doing things that annoyed me and made me wanna rather spend time on my own. Knowing that my family would arrive in only 3 weeks made the time even harder, as I knew it was so close but still not there yet.

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Of course, there were also silver linings. Knowing that my family would arrive in Australia soon and that it wasn’t many days to get through until I could finally spend some time with them. Long phone calls with my parents and friends, that almost made me feel like sitting on the sofa next to them talking. A lovely German couple I met and spend two days with baking brownies and playing lots of cards. Using the time to treat myself – sleeping in, working out in the morning, having a big healthy brunch. Watching Youtube videos in bed without feeling guilty for the time I could have done something productive.

Experiencing the feeling of loneliness and being homesick is part of travelling solo and I think that every traveller faces these kinds of days in some stage and at some point of their travels.

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For me, this week in Perth was the first time on my Australia journey of negative emotions for several days. Before I was feeling very comfortable in my situation, knowing what to do to keep me feeling great, but after my cousin left I kind of fell into a hole that I couldn’t get myself out of completely.

Luckily, I never felt a really strong depressive mood or anything, as I always tried to keep myself busy, around some nice people and thinking positive, but I also didn’t get back into feeling like myself.

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Because of that, I decided that it would be time to change something and as I had really amazing experiences so far with taking part of guided tours for several days (like I did on the Great Ocean Road or in the Outback), I booked another 6-day-tour to see the beautiful South-West of Australia.

I knew that having an adventurous and busy schedule with many great places to see and awesome things to do, as well as a group of people around me,  would make me feel good and just like I hoped so, it was a great decision. The six days flew by very fast and even though I returned to the same hostel and the same dorm room afterwards, everything felt different.

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I had a much better experience being in Perth afterwards, even though I didn’t have touristy things to keep me busy and have things to do, but instead I had met some nice people on the tour that I also spend time with afterwards back in Perth and I also met new faces in my hostel that I could hang out with. Once again, I used the time to work on my blog, work out and take time for myself and this time I could luckily enjoy it much more.

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Things that Help Me when I feel Unhappy, Lonely or Homesick while Solo Travelling

  • Surrounding myself with people. Going in the common area/kitchen, find people to talk to or just listen to their conversations. Working on my laptop in the common area instead of the dorm, going into bookshops and reading/browsing through their books, going in the park to listen to music/podcasts.
  • Watching your favourite Youtubers that make you feel cosy, inspired and just overall good
  • Focussing on yourself. Taking time for body and mind care, working out
  • Call or text with people that you miss. It might make you miss them more, but sometimes all we need is crying a bit and feeling better afterwards
  • Thinking about all the positive things. That I am currently living the life of my dreams and doing every day whatever I desire
  • Keeping myself busy with touristy stuff, blog work, food shopping and cooking, working out… find something that you like to spend your time with
  • Reading, listening to podcasts and audiobooks or music
  • Book a tour for a few days. In my eyes they are worth the money and you meet great people and have great experiences. It is also great for couples/travel mates that are together 24/7 to be on a tour with more people to hang out

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